Created: August 21, 2019

You've focused on breathing life into your spirit - where the foundation of your wellness lies.

• How to experience true, lasting change

• a new way to experience Immanuel "God With Us" through interactive journaling,

• and now delving into attachment styles so that you can experience true connection with others.

Today I want to talk about attachment styles and how you can be free of your past, free unhealthy relationships, free to grow, free to connect, free to be secure in your relationships. So, let’s dive right in:

Did you know? Joy is directly related to the quality of your relationships with others!

Let's first discover the different attachment styles (they aren’t new, they were discovered in the 1960s-70’s):

Dismissive/Avoidant – attachment is “turned off”, emotionally unavailable, dismissed needs or wants, withdrawn

Distracted/Anxious – attachment is “turned on”, sends mixed signals, based on your own needs – no others, highly needy/dependent, quickly attached

Disorganized – attachment is “turned on & off”, chaotic, disorganized, push & pull, unstable, hostile

Secure/Anchor – This is your goal! Anchor attachment, fulfilled, joyful, secure in relationships, inner confidence

I love introducing some essential oils in this context that can have powerful results. Here are some simple, natural, and effective tools for creating more security:

Dismissive/Avoidant – You can use Arborvitae and/or Cedarwood essential oils. They will bring a sense of community. You can say this affirmation when using the oils "How am I connected with others? I trust that I am connected with Jesus. I am perfectly safe and filled with gratitude."

Distracted/Anxious – You can use Bergamot and/or Eucalyptus essential oils (behind the ears, over the hip bones) and then say "Why am I at peace? I am safe, secure, and abounding in grace. I am whole in Jesus."

Disorganized Attachment – You can use Balance & Serenity or Peace and say "How do I receive peace? Jesus is the giver of Shalom".

I've created a simple Attachment Bundle for you here.

The commonality of all these attachment styles is FEAR. It's a deep longing for intimacy, but you don't know how to make it happen. It's rooted in FEAR. So, what is the antidote?

YOUR CREATOR.

In 1 John 4:8, 18 our Creator tells us, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. There is no fear in love." And what is the opposite of fear? FAITH. Faith is a trust that you are safe and supported, that things will turn out for your good and you have true confidence in God. True faith is centered in Jesus and leads to ACTION.

I encourage you to look over these attachment styles again. It may take talking to some friends who know you well to talk through them and see where you typically lie. Then, figure out one way that you can move from fear back into more secure attachments with others. This takes time. It takes getting "messy" with people and being open to change. You can also go back to the Immanuel Journaling process to help you work through it.

Watch the full video here:

Here is an additional video explanation on Attachment Styles: