3 Reasons to Start Now!

Updated: Sep 7, 2020

2020 isn't going the way that ANY of us had planned.

In the past several months you have had to change your game plan every few weeks. It's exhausting and you're overwhelmed by all of the info coming your way. You're stuck. All the changes are surrounding you and you're afraid of disappointing your patients and your family. How do you move forward with your practice if you're stuck in analysis paralysis or fear? 😨What could possibly be the good result of this year's horrific events? 😔

What if I told you that the world was not conspiring against you, but the things of this earth were designed for your benefit? 🥊I know - you'd look at me like I was crazy. 😜But hear me out. Today, I'm going to help you get outside of yourself and begin to take hold of your moment, the mission that is yours, and move forward with confidence by giving you 3 tips that will steer you in the right direction. Today is about A-C-T-I-O-N. 🏃🏽‍♀️

Kairos is an Ancient Greek word meaning the right, critical, or opportune moment.

In the New Testament portion of the Bible, "kairos" means "the appointed time in the purpose of God,” In other words, it’s the time when God acts (e.g. Mark 1:15: the kairos is fulfilled and the kingdom of God is at hand).

Today we’re going to talk about 3 reasons why this is your Kairos moment, and how you can get started right now. 

The world today is going through some growing pains. Not only are times changing, but many people believe things will never be the same again. In times like these, it’s easy to start to struggle with our emotions and to begin to wonder if there is hope moving forward. Today I’d like to share three thoughts to help you reframe your thinking so that you can continue to make a difference in the lives of your patients, but really, in your own life too.  


Your brain is hard-wired to help you return to joy. 

And the process is simple. (Notice that I didn’t say easy.) The process is just a few steps long, and I go into the process in great detail in a series of videos I did a few months ago. But the start of the process is what I’d like to walk you through today. It’s gratitude. Let’s do this together.

Get comfortable. If you’re in a place you can I want you to sit comfortably with your eyes closed. If you aren’t in that place then just do your best. We’re going to do something we call “Box Breathing”. This exercise is going to help reset your nervous system, and you’re going to be amazed at how you feel when we’re done. For the guys out there not wanting to do some girly breathing thing, this is used by the Navy Seals. 

If you have oils grab Motivate, Blue Tansy, Spearmint, Ginger, or Hope and put a couple of drops in your hand. Breathe it in.

To start, we’re going to breathe in for four seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds, then hold it again for 4 seconds. We would normally repeat the exercise 4 times, but today we’ll do it three times. 

Also, as we breathe in we’ll think, “I breathe in peace,” and when we breathe out think, “I breathe out stress.” Then, as we finish, I’m going to ask you to remember something from your past. 






Breathe… in…peace…  2… 3… 4

Hold… 2… 3… 4

Breathe out stress… 2… 3… 4

Hold… 2… 3… 4

Breathe… in…peace…  2… 3… 4

Hold… 2… 3… 4

Breathe out stress… 2… 3… 4

Hold… 2… 3… 4

Breathe… in…peace…  2… 3… 4

Hold… 2… 3… 4

Breathe out stress… 2… 3… 4

Hold… 2… 3… 4

Now - keep your eyes closed, and I want you to think about something in your past that made you smile. Maybe it was hearing your child call your name. Or someone special looking at you that made your heart skip a beat, or maybe a golden memory with a parent. 

Then, just sit in that moment for a few seconds and feel the warmth fill your body. 

Now open your eyes. 

How do you feel? Share with me below if you think this was a help. 


You aren’t enough. And that’s OK. 

I know - we hear a lot of people saying that you ARE enough, but I want to take some pressure off you. This world was not designed for you to be the only solution for ANYONE or anything. We are designed for community. It’s in your DNA. Your brain is literally wired for relationships. If you’ve never heard Simon Sinek’s talk about why leaders eat last (it’s a good book, but the Youtube video is powerful if you only have a few minutes) then you may not realize the far-reaching impact that the hormones in your brain have as you experience community. When you watched those brave people risk their lives to save the horse that was drowning, you got a release of hormones that encouraged you and bonded you to the people that you saw. It literally created an emotional bond with those people. It was like seeing your kid do something that made you proud. 

But here is the point: 

The fact that you aren’t enough means that you should give yourself some grace to only be the best version of yourself, and nothing more. AND that you need community. You were designed for it and need others to not only help cheer you on but hold you accountable and help you be more well-rounded in your strengths.

You can’t be everything your family, or your clients need. But what you can do is make their lives appreciably better. In the middle of a world that is crooked and wrong on so many different levels, you provide people a sanctuary of peace, of growth, of hope, of kindness. ☮️🙏

You are a ray of sunshine that they can look forward to. ☀️

So tell me, have you ever felt the pressure to do it all yourself? What kind of impact did that have on you in the short term? The long term? 


The bad things in this world are here to help. 

There is a powerful scene in the movie City Slickers with Billy Crystal  (they are city slickers that are herding some cattle across the country under less than ideal conditions). I know, I’m dating myself. As they ride along the trail the three main characters are having a conversation about their best and worst days. The first two men share their stories before the third man, Ed, goes. He starts, as did the other two men, with his best day. Except his best day was very different. He shared that his parents were fighting again, and as a 14-year-old he told his dad to leave, that he would take care of his mother and sister from then on, and that they didn’t need him anymore. Then he says, “And I took care of my mother and sister from that day on. That’s my best day.” The men ride in silence for a moment, obviously overwhelmed with what they’ve just heard. Then one of them asks, “What was your worst day?” “Same day,” he replies. 

Just like muscles get stronger through effort and challenges, you will grow through effort and challenges. If you look backward at your life you can see that the very things that helped make you the incredible person you are today were the challenges you overcame, the struggles you triumphed over, the times that you got knocked down then stood right back up again. This series of challenges is no different. 

What about you? Can you think back to a day like Ed, that was the worst day, but also the best?  Recognize the part you play in this KAIROS moment. What areas do you need to take action on and START NOW!

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