Ugh. There's a battle going on in your head and you just can't seem to get it under control. It feels like it's doing some damage up there and it could be long-term. 🤯
Did you know that your MIND and your BRAIN are two totally different things and you can help the two get along and stop that brain damage with METACOGNITION? I'm going to show you how. 🙌🏻
How does it make you feel when I tell you that you are not a victim of your emotions? That you can control your reactions? And that you do have a choice?
I know what you're saying inside....
....the fear statements & questions that creep in...
"You can't take that risk." "What if my kids get it when I send them back to school?" "What will people think if I..." 😰
....the shame statements & questions that sabotage....
"You have no business doing this.... you aren't even qualified to do it." "Will I ever be worthy of any good things?"😞
....the hopeless despair statements
"Is this really going to be normal?" "It's not if, it's when..." "When will it be my turn?" 😶
Are you ready to step out of this mind/brain battle and examine yourself and even CHANGE your emotional state so that your family, your patients, and your BRAIN thank you?? You can grab my bonus Mindfulness for Children PDF tool below so that you can spread the goodness you learn here with your kids.
Let's dive in:
Today I'm going to bring you a serious dose of "Good news. Bad news." But as you get to know the truth about your mind and how it works the truth will set you free.
Every decision you make has mental real estate. The circuits in your brain where your decisions are made are physical. This part of the brain extends from the forebrain to the frontal lobe. One of the magical powers of the frontal lobe is that it allows you to stand outside yourself and examine your thoughts, then make decisions about them.
You heard me right. You have a unique ability to stand outside your own self and examine what you're doing, how you're feeling, and then decide what to do about it, even down to your thoughts and emotions moving forward.
Let's look at a quick example:
It's the end of a long day and you are getting dinner ready when one of your kids starts to annoy their sibling. Again. You know how this is going to end, with lots of yelling, but you're up to your elbows in the food and can't break away this second. Less than a minute later one of our kids comes screaming into the kitchen with their sibling hot on their heels. You can feel the temperature in the room move just above boiling and you turn to face your kids.
Before we do anything rash I want you to look at yourself, but do it like you're a neutral outside observer. Think about what's going on in your brain, what words you're about to say, and how you're going to say them. Now decide if that's what you would want (insert the name of an important person here - like maybe a pastor, a famous person you like, or a mentor in your life) to see.
This is the moment of truth. At this point in the action, you've got the ability to CHOOSE the outcome.
This is GREAT NEWS.
What this means is that you can truly decide how to respond to the situation no matter what the situation is. In other words, you can choose to take your thoughts captive before they captivate you. You can choose to take these cares and cast them at the feet of Jesus before you speak. And finally, you can choose to be angry, but not sin. What you do with your thoughts is a choice.
If you're really thinking this through this is also really bad news. Because this also means that every bad decision you've ever made has been your fault. Every word you've spoken in anger. Every time you've said something hurtful. Every time you've chosen to act in a way that isn't loving, you alone were responsible.
But this also means you can fix it. Here's how:
We're going to look at a simple 5-step process that will help you rewrite your thoughts.
Gather. Spend some time praying and thinking about what thought you are going to try to change. You may feel like there is a host of them but pick one.
Focused Reflection. Think about the thought. How does it make you feel? What triggers it? How would you like to respond? Now, focus on the initial "gathered" thought, and at the same time control your response to it.
Writing. As you write things out your brain processes the thoughts and emotions. This is helping to solidify the new response to the initial thoughts.
Revisit. Now that you've thought through the thought and emotion it's time to revisit the new response. In other words, you are reevaluating where you've come from and where you are going.
Active Reach. Through the course of the day, you will mentally practice successfully navigating the new emotion. This could be by saying an affirmation, or by imagining the situation happening with a positive result. It's you practicing the event with the desired outcome.
Each of these steps is simple enough. And now what you're going to do is repeat all five of them daily for 21 days. Want to dig in dipper and see even more impactful results? Let's chat.
What is a toxic thought you can see yourself tackling?
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