Work Like This and You'll Suffer

Updated: Sep 7, 2020

Some things you do during your day just energize you. These are things that get you out of bed early with a smile on your face. You can't wait to dive in....🏃🏽‍♀️


Over the course of your day there are some things that you HAVE. to. do. 😰

No more. Today, I'm going to give you THREE real-life examples of how you can QUIT doing that work so your business can truly flourish. 🌸 AND... I'm sharing your very own Enneagram diffuser blends below! 👇🏼👇🏼


Don't tune me out! At least not yet.

You've always told yourself, "This is the price of the type of work I do, OR "I'll just power through and then I don't have to worry about it for another few days."

BUT.... This "powering through" is costing you hours, gray hair, and even $$! 👩🏼‍🦳

What I'm talking has been proven by years of research by some of the top business minds in the world so....🏙

Four themes of strengths that dominate for most people:

  • Influencing - these are people who thrive on taking charge, speaking up, and making sure others are heard.

  • Relating - these are people who build strong relationships that hold a team together.

  • Executing - these are people who thrive on making things happen.

  • Strategic - these are people who love absorbing and analyzing information that informs better decisions.

Now that you’ve heard each of the four areas tell me which of them you think is your strongest. Are you an influencer, a relator, an executor, or strategic? 


My superpowers are: being a truth finder, a deep connector, a root cause finder, rehabilitator and ambassador.  I'm always curious, ever learning and very growth-focused. I am an executor - I love taking action and getting things done. These are the things that energize me and don't feel like work to me.

However, the strengths that drain me and that I cannot do for very long periods of time are: being a talent nurturer, a celebrator of growth. It is draining for me to be an intuitive, caring listener, and I don't spend much time anticipating the downstream impact of a decision or being a fast decision-maker.

So, when it comes to getting things done at work, we don’t have the luxury of only doing the things that are in our zone of genius. So, how do we make sure we don’t drop the ball on those things that drain us and continue to make progress in our business? Let’s take a little bit of a deeper dive. 

Example #1: 

One of the most difficult things I’ve had to do with my work is to keep doing these weekly videos. Jim relishes the chance to get in front of people but I can’t stand it. I’m just not a public speaker. A minute ago I mentioned a couple of the things that drain me, but another but it’s hard for me to turn my thoughts into words, and, to be honest, I don’t really care about trying to win people over. The only reason I’m able to do these videos each week is that I said I would do it, so I’m going to do it. I have a DEEP value for integrity and honesty. 

Example #2: 

This may be cheating, but I think it helps illustrate the point in another way. As I just mentioned, the videos are tough to do, but one of the things that makes it more palatable is that I am a learner at heart, and I use these videos as a chance to share the things I’m learning along the way. Because of the areas of work that I’m in, with health and wellness, and with therapy, the opportunities to learn are always going to be there. There is always something new to learn. 

Example #3: 

I was having a conversation with a friend and we were talking about the things that energize us. I mentioned that I am NOT empathetic. My friend was literally shocked. She had always thought of me as being very empathetic. Hearing her say this made me wonder, what was it that made her feel that way? As I began to look at the things that energize me one of them stood out - I’m a deep connector. In our friendship (she is one of my best friends) I press into the relationship. The result is that she feels like I care deeply about the things in her life. This is true - but not because I’m empathetic. Now, you may be saying, “But isn’t that splitting hairs? Aren’t you just defining empathy a little differently?” The simple answer is.. there isn’t a really simple answer. In many of those draining jobs at work, we might be able to take a different approach in order to get a similar result. Let’s take a look at an example from therapy. 


As a therapist, it’s really important to celebrate people’s growth and success. But that’s an area I really struggle with. Because of my analytical nature and the fact that I like to get to the root cause of an issue, I’m very good at assessments, and writing evaluation reports, so I’m all about seeing the problem and then lining out the goals to work through, but celebrating as those milestones were reached didn’t come easy. In order to help with that gap, I used my strength in building deep relationships with the families I worked with so they would see that I cared about their kids and their progress. When possible I also tried co-treating with people that were good in those areas that I lacked. We mentioned this a few weeks ago, but it bears repeating - you may not be a well-rounded person, but you can create a well-rounded team. 

Maybe these examples are a little too specific for you. If that’s the case then think back to the four areas I mentioned a little earlier. Influencing, relating, strategic, and influencing. We might think about ourselves as having one of those areas as a strength and one of them as a weakness. Generally speaking. If that’s the case then find ways to reframe the parts of your work in the areas that don’t energize you and put them in the areas that do. For example, you could think about the administrative work you have to do with your clients as a way to spend more time on their file, and maybe the time you could spend thinking about what’s going on in their progress. 

If you think this has been helpful then let me know. If you’ve still got a question about what we’ve discussed just ask! I'm here to help!

When we do this sort of work with our clients, we use our SPARK method to help them begin by looking at the core of who they are as a person, at how they function, and at how their mind works. If you don’t start there, you’ll be on a wild goose chase. 

If that’s you then I want to help you calm the crazy and grow your business in a way that feels natural. But because this is a new area of our business, I’m being really choosy and limiting the number of people I work within the early phases, so I’m only choosing people that are a good fit for our team. If your clients would give you a good review, and you would be willing to put in the work with me, then let me know by telling me, “I want in” below and I’ll add you to our list of potential clients for this first round. But keep in mind, this is going to be up and running in the next few weeks, so I’ll need an answer pretty soon. 

I have a free FB group for therapists in all disciplines in private practice can collaborate, support each other during all of these shifts happening. If you'd like access to this group, let me know below

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